https://custodyandcoffee.com/ Honest field notes from a dad in the middle of it. Co-parenting, rebuilding, and doing right by the kids. en-us Mon, 13 Jul 2026 23:38:00 -0700 https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/stop-telling-yourself-dont.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/stop-telling-yourself-dont.html Tue, 14 Jul 2026 09:37:00 -0700 Your brain can't process the word don't. Neither can your kids. And a divorced dad's guilt runs on nothing else. How to stop handing your own mind the white bear. https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/signs-they-still-feel-safe-with-you.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/signs-they-still-feel-safe-with-you.html Tue, 14 Jul 2026 09:00:00 -0700 After you move out, you start wondering if the split broke something in your kids. Seven small signs that tell you the bond survived. https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/co-parenting-with-adhd.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/co-parenting-with-adhd.html Mon, 13 Jul 2026 23:38:00 -0700 The logistics of divorce are a memory test, and with ADHD my memory is the one thing I can't trust. How I stopped relying on my brain and built scaffolding around it. https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/i-braced-for-war-i-got-peace.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/i-braced-for-war-i-got-peace.html Mon, 13 Jul 2026 21:00:00 -0700 Everyone said co-parenting would be a fight over every little thing. It hasn't been. What actually kept the peace, and the parts that are in your control. https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/telling-the-kids-about-the-divorce.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/telling-the-kids-about-the-divorce.html Mon, 13 Jul 2026 19:00:00 -0700 Telling the kids was the part I dreaded most. Here's how we did it, and what I'd tell you before you sit down for yours. https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/nobody-is-coming-for-the-dads.html https://custodyandcoffee.com/posts/nobody-is-coming-for-the-dads.html Mon, 13 Jul 2026 17:00:00 -0700 Going through a divorce, I went looking for something built for the dads. There wasn't one. So I built it.